He was kind of scary.
He sat there on the grass with his cardboard sign, his dog (actually his
dog was adorable) and tattoos running up and down both arms and even on his
neck. His sign proclaimed him to be "stuck and hungry" and to please help.
I'm a sucker for anyone needing help. My husband both hates and loves
this quality in me.
I pulled the van over and in my rearview mirror, contemplated this man,
tattoos and all. He was youngish, maybe forty. He wore one of those
bandannas tied over his head, biker/pirate style. Anyone could see
he was dirty and had a scraggly beard. But if you looked closer, you
could see that he had neatly tucked in the black T-shirt, and his things
were in a small, tidy bundle. Nobody was stopping for him. I could see the
other drivers take one look and immediately focus on something else -
anything
else. It was so hot out. I could see in the man's very blue eyes how
dejected
and tired and worn-out he felt. The sweat was trickling down his face. As I
sat with the air-conditioning blowing, the scripture suddenly popped
into my head. "Inasmuch as ye have done it unto the least of these, my
brethren,
so ye have done it unto me."
I reached down into my purse and extracted a ten dollar bill. My
twelve-year
old son, Nick knew right away what I was doing. "Can I take it to him,
Mom?"
"Be careful, honey." I warned and handed him the money. I watched in the
mirror as he rushed over to the man, and with a shy smile, handed it to
him. I saw the man, startled, stand and take the money, putting it into his
back pocket. "Good," I thought to myself, "now he will at least have a
hot meal tonight." I felt satisfied, proud of myself. I had made a
sacrifice and now I could go on with my errands.
When Nick got back into the car, he looked at me with sad, pleading eyes.
"Mom, his dog looks so hot and the man is really nice." I knew I had to do
more.
"Go back and tell him to stay there, that we will be back in fifteen
minutes," I told Nick.
He bounded out of the car and ran to tell the tattooed stranger. We then
ran to the
nearest store and bought our gifts carefully. "It can't be too heavy," I
explained to the
children. "He has to be able to carry it around with him." We finally
settled on our
purchases. A bag of "Ol' Roy" (I hoped it was good - it looked good enough
for me to
eat! How do they make dog food look that way?); a flavored chew-toy
shaped like a
bone; a water dish, bacon flavored snacks (for the dog); two bottles of
water (one for the
dog, one for Mr. Tattoos); and some people snacks for the man.
We rushed back to the spot where we had left him, and there he was, still
waiting. And still
nobody else was stopping for him. With hands shaking, I grabbed our bags
and climbed
out of the car, all four of my children following me, each carrying gifts.
As we walked up to
him, I had a fleeting moment of fear, hoping he wasn't a serial killer.
I looked into his eyes and saw something that startled me and made me
ashamed
of my judgment. I saw tears. He was fighting like a little boy to hold back
his tears.
How long had it been since someone showed this man kindness?
I told him I hoped it wasn't too heavy for him to carry and showed him
what we had brought. He stood there, like a child at Christmas, and I
felt like my small contributions were so inadequate. When I took out the
water dish, he snatched it out of my hands as if it were solid gold and
told me he had had no way to give his dog water. He gingerly set it
down, filled it with the bottled water we brought, and stood up to look
directly into my eyes. His were so blue, so intense and my own filled
with tears as he said "Ma'am, I don't know what to say." He then put
both hands on his bandanna clad head and just started to cry. This man,
this "scary" man, was so gentle, so sweet, so humble. I smiled through
my tears and said "Don't say anything." Then I noticed the tattoo on his
neck. It said "Mama tried."
As we all piled into the van and drove away, he was on his knees, arms
around his dog, kissing his nose and smiling. I waved cheerfully and then
fully broke down in tears. I have so much. My worries seem so trivial and
petty now. I have a home, a loving husband, four beautiful children. I have
a
bed. I wondered where he would sleep tonight. My step-daughter, Brandie
turned to me and said in the sweetest little-girl voice, "I feel so good."
Although it seemed as if we had helped him, the man with the tattoos
gave us a gift that I will never forget. He taught that no matter what
the outside looks like, inside each of us is a human being deserving of
kindness, of compassion, of acceptance. He opened my heart.
Tonight and every night I will pray for the gentle man with the tattoos
and his dog. And I will hope that God will send more people like him
into my life to remind me what's really important.
"Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing some people have
entertained angels without knowing it." -Hebrews 13:2